Friday, August 28, 2009

Open Apology to Stay at Home Mothers

Dear Stay at Home Mothers Everywhere,
I'm sorry.

There- I said it.

I am so exceptionally sorry for talking about you, and being jealous of your "luxurious" existence. I had no clue and for that, you are owed an apology. Your job is harder than it looks.
Prior to the birth of my son I thought " Stay at home mothers can't possibly have a tough time. What the heck am I going to DO all day?" HA!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA!! My days have never gone by so quickly!!! I don't even know what day it is, let alone what time. For the record, its 11:42 pm and I haven't finished putting the groceries away, the dishwasher isn't loaded for its nightly washing and I still have 3 loads of laundry left to finish. I no longer have a set "to do" list..its more like a "fly by the seat of your pants" experience. Here's what I did today (in no particular order): 6 loads of laundry, 2 children bathed, 1 child to and from school, 6 diaper changes, battled infant to drink one bottle of poop inducing apple juice, sent 1 sorely neglected husband off to work, changed 2 sets of sheets, cooked 3 meals and prepped one for tomorrow, grocery shopped for 1 hour. I'm exhausted and yet, it feels like I did nothing. How do you ladies do it? Perhaps some of you veterans need to offer a boot camp for rookies. People need to be informed before signing up for this...it certainly ain't for sissies.

10 comments:

Linda @ My Trendy Tykes said...

drink......


A LOT!

Oh yeah, AND EAT BON BONS
Lots of them


: )

Noah's Mommy said...

I had to issue one of these myself when I made the transition...but I tell you what I'm not one that makes it look easy...I'm a mess!!!

Nori D said...

It's a crazy world...

From someone who worked with AIDS patients, people dying with Cancer, drug users, and with child abuse cases, being home has to be the most difficult job in the world.

I'm so tired of people thinking I have it easy. If they only knew.

We're here for you, You are not alone.

MrsM said...

Only a snake oil salesman would try to tell you there is some magic formula by which being a stay at home mom would be easy. The truth is no ones house stays clean, no one's kids are perfectly behaved, and no stay at home mom ever has "down time". The best advice I can give is to let go of what you can't control, accept your limitations for what they are, and try to do something for yourself once in a while. Get used to being undervalued-no one knows how hard it is until they do it!

Hang in there!

shiduri said...

hi :) i just stumbled on your blog, and i love it.

Kate said...

I agree with Linda.

Drink heavily.

And get good pharmaceuticals that cause your brain to "let go" of most things that would normal bother the HELL out of you.

Other than that, it's a piece of cake.

Candy said...

LOL to all of you....
Thanks :)

Abby N Kay Boutique said...

Kate and Lina are right on.
I have 4 and I do lots of both. LOL

Michelle said...

Too funny. I too thought the same thing before I decided to stay home. At my old job the boss's wife stayed home and I kid you not, I thought staying at home would be like a having a constant "holiday." How nieve was I! My only rule that I "try" and hold myself to now-a-days is I at least need to get dressed! Good luck!

NICO Designs said...

My husband just asked me if I could wear a dress or something other than old t-shirts everyday. Humpf. As if I have time to shop for myself.